Family Health Assessment
Six honest questions, two minutes, no judgment. Tick one answer per question, then add up the numbers in brackets.
1. In the past month, how many real conversations have you had with your kids about something that matters to them? (Connection)
Honestly, none [0]One or two [1]Several [2]
2. If I asked your partner the three most important values for your family, would they name the same ones you would? (Alignment)
Probably not [0]Maybe [1]Definitely [2]
3. Do you have a regular, scheduled time when your family sits down together — not to eat, but to talk? (Rhythms)
No [0]We've tried [1]Yes, consistently [2]
4. When something is bothering someone in your family, does it get talked about openly? (Issues)
Usually it doesn’t [0]Eventually — days or weeks [1]Within a day or two [2]
5. Do your kids have responsibilities they handle without being reminded? (Responsibility)
Not really [0]Some [1]Yes [2]
6. Could you describe, in one sentence, where your family is headed in the next 5–10 years? (Direction)
No idea [0]Vaguely [1]Yes, clearly [2]
Your total: ______ of 12
0–4: drifting more than you realize. 5–8: you sense the drift, and you're right. 9–12: a lot here is already intentional.
Any question you answered [0] or [1] is a place to start. Write one sentence about it, in your own words: